Figuring Out Where to Bring Your Children in the Summer When Working
Although we all love the sunny days of summer, divorcing moms and dads sometimes dread the thought of summer without the structure of school for their children. They have to find childcare or a camp for the kids while they are at work. This is especially true for the former stay-at-home parent who is now working outside the home. Childcare and camps can be expensive. This comes when the couple has half the resources they once had while married. The financial challenge is finding childcare or camps that are cost-effective while also providing an educational yet fun-filled experience.
Summers are even more complicated by shared custody schedules. Couples who address this concern and reach an agreement during negotiations of the parenting plan are at an advantage. Be realistic about what you can and cannot do as an equal co-parenting partner. Summer is the time for kids to unwind after the school year, especially if it falls when they are adjusting to their parents’ divorce. How these days are planned sets the stage for future years and traditions. Taking a vacation break with each parent can be double the fun.
Further, certain weeks with grandparents, aunts and uncles, and other family members can be a time to experience different lifestyles. Sometimes, a week in the country followed by a week in a different city or state may be educational as well as fun. Visiting various colleges and universities may be necessary if a teen is nearing college age.
Below are Seven Tips to Consider
- Make plans early – Reduce your anxiety. These plans will need to be coordinated with your ex. Sometimes, depending on the marital settlement agreement (or plan in process), the cost of certain activities is split 50/50. Now is the time to review your options.
- Check with family members – Grandparents may love to have the kids for a week or two. Visiting cousins in a different state might be a chance for a week.
- Check with divorced or single friends and neighbors – This group has been through what you are planning now. Their ideas and recommendations may be invaluable.
- Research camps and summer programs – If you can afford a program, fine. If not, check into scholarships and other financial assistance.
- Shift financial priorities – Temporarily, for the summer, you may reallocate the budget from other discretionary spending to camps.
- Check local resources – Check if your municipality or church group sponsors free or low-fee services.
- Summer jobs – If your child is a teen, he/she may apply for a summer job. In addition, schools may offer or refer your child to a job that is both educational and a source of spending money.
Summer Camps
When researching camps, there are usually many options. Activities include sports, acting, outdoor education, and creativity (music and art), among others. There are almost always webpages in most localities that outline options. By planning ahead, your children can have a summer filled with activities and fun, allowing you to go to work, if necessary, with peace of mind.
